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magusachan · ARWZ Caf� Posting Queen Joined: 26 Jul 2006 Posts: 413

We all have topics that concern us more or less.
There are certain topics where we get emotional when people start to argue about them.

What sort of topic makes you get emotional easily?
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Saundra Kane · Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:26 pm

when people start calling other people names for not agreeing with them on Politics or Religion. I am open to any subject because I want to learn other people's culture..but some people get really nasty if people disagree and that makes my emotions go nutty.

magusachan · ARWZ Caf� Posting Queen Joined: 26 Jul 2006 Posts: 413

I couldn't agree more, Saundra.

Actually, my dad is such a person. He has strong viewpoints on e.g. religion, politics, etc. and discussing these topics with him is really hard. I try to stay calm and rational but (even though it has become much better over the years) there are still certain topics at which he just does not give you room for your own opinion.

Like you, I am always open to other people's viewpoints and opinions. So, also for me, there is nothing worse than someone who thinks he/she has the ultimately correct viewpoint on anything - and simply cannot accept your opinion or give your opinion the same value.

That is why .. talking to my dad sometimes gets me really emotional. Depending on his mood he sometimes says things the rough way and it's tough to always have to be the one to control yourself and what you say.

I bet you have come across such people, too.
It is especially hard when you know that this particular person really cares for you (like it is the case with my dad) but that it is not possible to discuss things openly with him or her.

Saundra Kane · Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 10:13 am

It is hard when the people are people you love. My parents had very strong ideas and if I disagreed, they would act like I was insane. Rolling Eyes

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Ian · Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 1:02 pm

Queen Of The Abyss · Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2007 1:02 am

Animal rights is my biggest one. And I start to cry whenever I see TV shows where someone has mistreated an animal.

Another one is sex education. I'm a strong proponent of it. I even almost got into it when my boyfriend's sister started complaining that her 11-year-old daughter came home and asked what a condom was. Turns out the teacher had discussed it in a health (maybe science?) class and the mother was upset about it. I reminded them that it was important because there are 12-year-olds out there having sex. Then the husbands got all defensive and said, "Not my daughter!" Since it was Christmas and I was visiting my boyfriend's parents at the time I chose to keep my mouth shut. But, it's never "my daughter" until she turns up pregnant or mysteriously catches a disease. I get worked up by it because my parents were always open with us and I don't understand how, in this day, a lot of people still have that 1950's mentality that teaching kids about sex is going to send them fornicating freely in the streets.

Peter · Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2007 3:24 am

Do you have kids Queen, or are you just making comments as an interested bystander?

I have two daughters and they will know precisely what can be in store for them before their time comes.

Yes, there are a lot of head-in-the-sand dumbasses out there who think it won't happen to their kids, etc, etc...I've never been under that illusion.

Saundra Kane · Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2007 9:13 am

me neither. My daughter was the first to know the facts of life in her age group. It's because she was asking about how our cat got pregnant and I told her...and then she asked how people do. I had to explain that even though it happens the same way, people should be much more selective about their actions. It lead to some interesting discussions, but I decided I would always tell the truth and not evade questions.
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magusachan · ARWZ Caf� Posting Queen Joined: 26 Jul 2006 Posts: 413

Queen:
"But, it's never "my daughter" until she turns up pregnant or mysteriously catches a disease."

Absolutely.
Especially in our times, when children catch so many sexual signals through mass media and friends at school, it is important that parents learn to deal with the matter in a reasonable way - and are always there if their children have questions on this topic.

No wonder that a wrong reaction of parents only turns their children away from them - and then, they easily go and turn to the "wrong kind of people".

It makes me sad to see how difficult it still is for parents to even deal with the whole topic in a normal, mature way. It is part of our lives, a very important part actually - and it is only natural that their children start to get interested in it.

I mean - we've all been young ourselves, right? Why does it get so tough to understand the interest in this topic once we grow older?

Richard H. Fay · Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2007 1:54 pm

Certain people can attest to this fact: people questioning my decision to home school my daughter makes me rather emotional. And, no, I 'm not trying to open a debate about home schooling. I'm just saying that I get very defensive and emotional when people question my decision, and suggest that I am hurting her emotional and social development.

No decent parent likes to be told they are doing something to harm their children.

Of course, I always get teary eyed when I watch The Lord of the Rings, so maybe I'm just an emotional person!
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